Self-Image, how does it look?

Self-Image; what a result that we own it. If it was someone else's, it would belong to them.

As the owner of ourselves, we have an opportunity to make the most of who we are. We operate in a vast vessel, our body, that contains the voice, the brain (physical) the mind (invisible) and the core senses of touch, smell, taste, sight and hearing. We are fortunate to have this amazing 'equipment' which can empower us to make the most of the person we are. This includes ownership of our self-image. We can therefore create and shape the view of ourselves that we would like to project to the outside world.

However, for some people, there seems to be a block to making change happen. Something gets in the way, which prevents them from upgrading their self-image. They don't draw on the opportunity of projecting an image that serves them well. Is it that they are unaware of how to change their image, is it a lack of confidence to change, is it apathy or something else?

It's not as though we have to ask for permission to change, as the owner of our image, we can do what we like in terms of change of portrayal.

The existential nature of being offers the possibility to have the exact self-image we would like. Having the opportunity to design our image to suit our needs or character, can be a game changer. It's an open goal. Not only can we do this we also have the possibility to change it as and when we like, with a bit of effort.

We are often initially judged by our appearance rather than our character, which can lead to misinterpretation of one's qualities and skills. Going under the radar and focusing on what's important allows those misinterpreted to make the most of their talent; pursuing opportunities their quiet style offers.

Assessing our current self-image may be a useful exercise.  We tend to fall into comfort zones once we settle into routines. Maintaining the impression we desire requires attention. We often overlook the opportunity to review our perceptions and behaviours. If we are to keep on top of our self-image it is worth paying attention to it.

'It is a choice to change' !

Imagine deciding that you want to create a great impression when dealing with significant others, friends, family and colleagues, crafting the image you want to convey is vital. Building strong rapport is a key starting point and some of the tactics that may be useful are captured below.

Rapport

Non-verbal Verbal Skills

- Eye contact - Language patterns - Open questions

- Appearance - Pace - Silence

- Gestures - Tone - Deep listening

- Posture - Volume - Stay present

- Smile - Mirroring - Empathy

Be honest, how much time have you spent thinking about the self-image you project? It's possibly one of the most important opportunities we have. Reviewing and considering one's image enables us to 'keep an eye' on the perspective we would like to have. This approach can ensure we project the appropriate impression when operating with others.

Upgrading our self-image should be a priority. The nature of the human condition means that we are assessed, judged, and placed into categories regularly. Feeling comfortable about our self-image enables us to consolidate our confidence, ramping up our belief in our future possibilities.

Feedback is a great 'gift'. It can be a free service provided by friends, colleagues and family members. They all have a view of us as we do of them in return, so the idea is to reflect on the feedback and take any desirable learning actions forward.

If we don't take care of our image, who will? This isn't some narcissistic 'look at me' approach, rather it's a grounded approach that reminds us to refresh and recalibrate as and when necessary. It's like a car having a regular service to ensure it is fit for purpose. A strong self-image that is reviewed relatively frequently keeps us on track.

What's the point? To take advantage of the opportunity to create a strong self-image, which can be transformative. Let's be honest, if you don't craft an image that captures the essence of who you are or who you want to be then who will?

Perhaps it's time to reflect, ponder and upgrade our self-image?

• What is your current self-image, how do you see yourself now?

• How do you make the most of your self-image?

• Is your self-image aligned with your aspirations?

• What impression would you like to change?

• Who will give you honest feedback?

Three steps to change our self-image:

1. Decide what self-image is desired

2. Decide to change

3. Decide to be bold

Perception | Potential | Performance